Happy Memorial Day Weekend!
There is a fine line between hustle and burnout. Last week, I crossed it. Having started my first job ever (full-time) along with taking a class and creating my own organization on campus, a lot of responsibilities arose in my life. Since I love giving 110% in all that I’m doing, that 110% x 3 kind of found me off guard. I ended up having no time for myself or my hobbies, which made me feel drained of energy. It happens, and I find it very disturbing for my creative flow and my well-being when it does, because it feels like it takes away all my inspiration. Uninspired Tori = sad Tori.
I decided to cancel all my plans for the weekend, and use the opportunity to have time for myself. I declined any invitations from my friends, justifying it with a simple reason: Sorry, but I need some time alone.
If there’s one thing I recently realized, it’s that it’s better to acknowledge when you need to take time away from everyone instead of saying yes to plans and not being fully present. Of course, it also depends on your personality type. If you are a 100% extrovert that gains energy from social interaction, then go on and organize a night out. If you’re like me, and sometimes your introverted tendencies make an appearance, my plan sounds like a better choice. Whatever it is, make sure you stay true to your emotional state, and act according to it.
Enough with the psychology lecture, let’s dive in the how to of having a peaceful and relaxing weekend just for yourself. Inspired by my last weekend.
If your friends will understand it, let them know. If they won’t, find new friends. Kidding. Or not. Truth is, good friends are supposed to understand your need and give you the space you need.
Don’t plan anything.
One of my goals for my me time was to let myself get inspired, and the best way to do that is to be open to whatever might come up in your day, and explore the many possibilities arising. Indeed, set some time aside for things that need to be done (such as that class assignment, submitting an application or paying your rent), but use the rest as a chance to see where your creativity takes you.
Personally, I found myself coming up with ideas for new meals, finally adjusting my sleep cycle, creating mood boards, and finding new spots in the city for reading and enjoying the good weather. Saturday night I joined a friend in a spontaneous longboarding session around the city, and ended up on a rooftop from where we could see Philly in its whole beauty. I was so happy to finally use the longboard I got from California, even if at the end I made sure I fell in the most graceful way possible. (Not.)
Sunday was spent even better. I’m doing a 7-day meditation challenge with a good friend, so that’s how it started. Refreshing, calming, and peaceful. Then, I felt a huge need to dive in a pool, and since I let myself be guided by feeling this weekend, that’s what I did. Well, that felt even more refreshing. The 30-degree weather called for a tanning session, so I went to this beautiful rooftop in Philly called Cira Green, where they actually had sunbeds so I was able to lay in the sun for a couple hours! Before heading home, I met with a friend at a rooftop pool near the area, and the whole vibe got me SO EXCITED for summer. Ending the night with some Physics work, Pink Floyd oldies, and cooking a good steak, I call it a weekend.
Stick to your intention.
It’s easy to give in to new invitations or plans that your friends are making, but I feel like the most important part of having a me time weekend is to actually stick to the initial intention. If you stick to it until the end of the weekend, you will be able to get much more out of it.
At the end, the best way to take in all the value you got from your time with yourself is to actually reflect on it. I recommend you create some sort of a reflection template that will give you more clarity about what you did, how it felt, and what you learned. In your reflection template, you can add categories such as Intention, Goals, Activity, What you loved the most about the activity, How happy did it make you (on a scale from 1 to 10), and, the most important part, how do you plan on incorporating it in your life moving further.
Feel free to use the following template that I made!
The most important step. If you don’t enjoy the process, then what’s the point of doing it? Be mindful of your time spent alone, it’s precious. ♥
Also, if you are stuck and you need ideas on where to start your weekend, here are some tips:
- train ride to a nearby city
- wandering around a new area of the town
- going to a book shop and finding new reads
- journaling in a coffee shop
- trying out a new recipe
- finding a secret garden and watching the birds
- making mood boards
- …leave more ideas in the comments!
As you enjoy the long Memorial Day Weekend, I hope I inspired you to take some time for yourself and see what you can get out of it. Personally, I am going to do my best this weekend to plan the content for the next period. A lot of exciting things are coming up, and I can’t wait to share it with you on my blog, YouTube channel and Instagram. Would also love some input on what type of content you’d like to see more: career-related, productivity/time management, style/fashion, college life tips and tricks, health and wellness, or maybe vlogs? Let me know in the comment section below!
Enjoy your me time weekend!